5 things i dont like about malay weddings

1. its rather annoying and disrespectful when the bride and groom arrives awfully late. like if the makan makan starts at 12 noon, i think it is just wrong if the celebrated couple turns up at the kenduri at like, 3pm? during my wedding 3 years ago we were specifically told by my mother to be at the reception by 12 noon, the peak hour when the guests start arriving. we were told to salam, meet and greet EVERY single guest that came to our wedding as token of appreciation.

2. it is also annoying and disrespectful when bride and groom choose to do their photoshoot DURING the makan makan. the guests really have to make an effort to get inside the already packed house to meet the bride and groom, if they are lucky. most of the time the pengantin will probably be locked in their room for the photoshoot session. i personally think that this can and should be done before or after the reception took place.after all dont we have this pre-wedding and outdoor photoshoot?photoshooting during the reception should only be for the photos of the pengantin WITH the guests.

3. i understand that due to space limit  and time flexibility, guests at malay weddings usually eat at their own convenience, whether instantly upon arriving or before they leave. it is normal for guests to come and go as they eat, and the food is served buffet style. i wish they didn't do it like this during my wedding. i wish it was done properly like they do in western wedding, where every guests are assigned their own seat, everybody sat together and say their prayers and wishes for the pengantin before everybody starts eating.

4. again, problem number 3 arises possibly because they number of guests invited is rather too large. the normal number of guests for a malay wedding usually exceeds 1000 to 2000. i think the person who should get invited to your wedding are those who actually know you personally, not just some random or mutual acquitance who MAY or may not know you. kawan kepada sepupu ipar pengantin should not be in your guest list if you know what i mean.

5. im not sure if anyone would agree with this, but i think wedding gifts (hadiah hantaran) between the bride and groom should not be displayed for the public. same applies with the amount of dowry the bride gets, it should not be revealed except between close family members. When i was getting married, i had this idea of putting all the gifts i bought for my future husband into these beautifully covered traditional wooden box, but my mother and a few other relatives were so againts it i had to forget the whole plan. My reason for not displaying the gifts: no 1, it should be a surprise, something that only the receiver knows, and reason number 2, it can lead riak (showing off).

truth is, i cant wait for the day when my daughter gets married and have her wedding reception. i wont interfere with her planning, but i sure will guide her to make sure the above mentioned 5 things can be prevented or avoided.

im a teacher by profession, but i wish i had a completely different career, a career that calls for regular travelling here and there. i wish that when my daughter grows up she will have a job that requires her to jet-set all over the world, but then if she does end up working that kind of job, she will probably wish she has a stable, children-friendly job like her mother did, because its human nature to want what they dont or cant have. a doctor may wish she is a full time housewife married to a well-paid husband. a housewife probably wish she works in an office earning steady income, etc etc.

i dont completely hate my job, but sometimes i wonder what it would be like if i am not a teacher. would i still live the same life, fall in love with the same guy and hold the same mindset about things?

huarrghhhh!!yesterday i lost 300g but today i gained another 200g. yes, grams not kilograms.when it comes to weight watch im very berkira and specific, thanks to my sis-in-law's digital scale which i usually use without her permission haha.

ohkay my current weight is 53.5kg. before i 'accidentaly' got pregnant, my weight was ONLY 46kg.then due to extreme happiness (and extreme amount of pampering from husband) i gained an extra 30kg during my pregnancy, YES. i gradually started to lose weight after my sweet cencomot cute little baby was born, with the help of breastfeeding (each breastfeeding session help burns 500 kcal) and by literally eating less, i managed to lose around 20kg plus.

im not really in a hurry to get back to my pre-pregnant weight because right now im eating to produce enough milk for the baby,  still the thing that bothers me most is MY flabby stomach. when i was pregnant it got really big everyone assumed i was carrying a set of twins. turned out my baby was born rather small, weighing at only 2.9 kg and it was maternal fat that made me look big, not the baby.

today im 'trying' to watch my weight, sometime i made it sometime i fail miserably, so i would like to share this with whoever is reading my blog with some tips on how to get a flat stomach. this is more like a reminder to myself.

1. aviod soft drinks. drink plenty of plain water.

2. replace junk food and choc with fruits.

3. increase the frequency of your meals to 6-8 times a day (small portion meals).

4. only eat carbohydrates before 2:00 p.m, from then on only proteins.

5.don't eat anything 2 hours before you sleep

6.don't eat past 9:30 pm, because food eaten after 9:30 pm are normally stored as fat.

7. some of the best exercise for achieving flat stomach are abdominal crunches, vaccum pose and belly ru blah blah blah...im totally skipping the exercise part because i hate working out and im never gonna do it.

good luck to me.

today is my husband's 26th birthday.

happy birthday gedik.

take your time growing up, because no matter how childish you can be, i still love you.

and you're such a wonderful father :')

since he loves desserts so much i decided to make him some trifle.

i love you pet ;)

okay here's a proper update hehe.

i got this recipe from my mother.when i was younger, my mother made (she no longer bakes these days) superb moist choc cake and homemade donuts.it never occurred to me to learn from her until two years ago when i wanted to impress my mother in law (didn't happen, haha), and now that i have a baby girl i'm planning to practice before she turns 1 next may so that she can enjoy mama's homemade donuts just like i did enjoy my mother's.

 2 cups of wheat flour

1 pinch of salt

2 teaspoon of sugar

1 spoonful of milk powder

2 teaspoon of yeast

an egg

1 teaspoon margerine

mix the yeast with half a cup of warm water.put aside.mix everything else together, pour in the yeast, knead the dough until firm.you know the rest right?

the kneading part is the most depressing part for me because the dough tends to get all gooey-like, its so annoying.i usually add in more flour so that means the recipe above is pretty invalid haha.btw i use nutella as the choc spread and you can use any of those cute sprinkles they usually put on top of cupcakes.

before

after

the pictures are a little bit blurry, should've used my husband's dslr but he's not around at the moment and my capabilty of using that kind of camera is close to zero so..

ps: i hope sumayya will love donuts! :)

i just dont get it.kenape tak boleh tukar setting and background?and im sooo desperate to get rid of the above baby ticker and the baby countdown on the sidebar.my baby is 6 months old already. and why the sudden update you ask?ade famous blogger ni tanye soalan:

"are you ever going to update your blog?"

hehe consider this as an update! ;)

teruk betui budak2 skarang nih

carls, if you're reading this, saya curik ya. thanks ngehehe.







p/s - just for the sake of an update.